The "fear of the Lord" is to choose the way of God over the way of men and even over your own preferences.
When we "fear God" we have an understanding that God knows all things and will lead us in the best way for us to go in the decisions pertaining to this present life.
And we know that if we go in a way opposite to the way of God we bring destruction upon ourselves.
Psalm 107
5 Hungry and thirsty, their soul fainted in them.
6 Then they cried unto the LORD in their trouble, and HE delivered them out of their distresses.
7 And HE led them forth by the right way, that they might go to a city of habitation.
8 Oh that men would praise the LORD for HIS goodness, and for HIS wonderful works to the children of men!
9 For HE satisfieth the longing soul, and filleth the hungry soul with goodness.
11 Because they rebelled against the words of God, and contemned the counsel of the most High:
20 HE sent HIS word, and healed them, and delivered them from their destructions.
James 1:5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
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