The Bible teaches us so much about God's plan concerning men and women and the way God created men and women. The world tries to make everything the same, same opportunities, even same roles.
It is difficult to enter into our assignment from God and to understand the way God created us unless we view some scriptures on this subject.
God ordained the following:
8 And the LORD God planted a garden eastward in Eden; and there HE put the man whom HE had formed.
18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made HE a woman, and brought her unto the man.
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God created the woman to be an helper to the man.
Some women will not marry. Some women will be assigned other roles by God.
But most women will marry and when they do marry, God has created them especially for that man to be his help meet.
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Eve was deceived by Satan and after the transgression, God put the following assignment on the man and the woman and there was a difference in the role of the man and the woman.
For the man:
17 -19 And unto Adam HE (God) said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life; Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field; In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.
For the woman:
Genesis 3
(Already we see that God has created the woman for the man so she would be a help meet to the man.)
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So we go forth perfectly created and joined by God.
But men and women change the creation in their own wisdom and things fall apart.
As long as we accept our assignments, God blesses us in that to which HE has assigned to us.
And as long as we do what God wants us to do we are blessed and we bless others by our lives, whether we marry or whether we are single.
God said to Isaac: Genesis 26:3 Sojourn in this land, and I will be with thee, and will bless thee;
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Mark 10 Jesus says:
7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;
8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
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Divorce was created because of the hardness of the heart:
2 And the Pharisees came to HIM (to Jesus) , and asked HIM, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting HIM.
3 And HE answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you?
4 And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away.
5 And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.
3 And HE answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you?
4 And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away.
5 And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.
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Matthew 5:32 Jesus said:
* Woman who remarries after divorce commits adultery.
* Man who divorces a faithful wife will be the cause of her adultery if she remarries.
* Man who marries divorced woman commits adultery.
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Deborah, a married woman who judged Israel.
4 And Deborah, a prophetess, the wife of Lapidoth, she judged Israel at that time.
5 And she dwelt under the palm tree of Deborah between Ramah and Bethel in mount Ephraim: and the children of Israel came up to her for judgment.
6 And she sent and called Barak the son of Abinoam out of Kedeshnaphtali, and said unto him, Hath not the LORD God of Israel commanded, saying, Go and draw toward mount Tabor, and take with thee ten thousand men of the children of Naphtali and of the children of Zebulun?
7 And I will draw unto thee to the river Kishon Sisera, the captain of Jabin's army, with his chariots and his multitude; and I will deliver him into thine hand.
8 And Barak said unto her, If thou wilt go with me, then I will go: but if thou wilt not go with me, then I will not go.
9 And she said, I will surely go with thee:
(So there are times God uses a woman for multiple purposes.)
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Women often want to fulfill themselves.
My mother wanted to be a teacher. My dad did not want my mother to work outside the home. So my mother did not try to get a job outside the home. My dad wanted my mother to stay at home and take care of me and the house.
Pam Padgett's younger sister had 4 children. This sister wanted to be fulfilled and she wanted to work in a day care center. She convinced her parents to buy the day care center for her. Her husband was against her working outside the home and he wanted her to stay at home and take care of their children. But she got the day care center. She and her husband ended up in divorce.
Today so much is upside down and opposite to that set forth in Bible.
Things are getting worse and they grow farther away from Bible.
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Some women will not marry and they will have other assignments from God.
I Corinthians 7
27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
29 But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;
30 And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not;
31 And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away.
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.
37 Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.
38 So then he that giveth in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth not in marriage doeth better.
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Most people will marry and here are very important instructions concerning those who marry.
I Corinthians 7
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.
40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.
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When we choose to follow that which is ordained by God for us and we see and do, by following the Spirit, in that which is set forth in the New Testament Bible, we greatly bless ourselves and others.
It is good to focus on these scriptures concerning marriage, divorce, remarriage and remaining single.
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